Subliminal

Recently, I finished reading this book called Subliminal, by Leonard Mlodinow..

Subliminal, How your Unconscious Mind Rules Your Behavior

Subliminal, How your Unconscious Mind Rules Your Behavior

I’m still working on self improvement, and when I stumbled upon this book, I thought it would be a nice change of pace. Most “self-help” books are about communicating on a personal emotional level, this book is different on my journey because it talks on a broader scientific scale. Throughout the book there are tons of case studies (properly footnoted too!) that provide the revelations necessary to break down old paradigms and have a more conscious reaction to life.

A major theme in this book, is that the subconscious is there to help make our lives run smoother. It is not like the Freudian days, where subconsciousness was the place things were suppressed, but it is the place were we can automatically respond to stimuli.

I’d definitely recommend the book with just a fair warning that the author tends to write in long winded run on sentences. Granted, he’s got a great sense of humor, but it def isn’t a book to read out loud. haha

An excerpt from the chapter on self:

As the psychologist Jonathan Heidt put it, there are two ways to get at the truth: the way of the scientist and the way of the lawyer. Scientists gather evidence, look for regularities, form theories explaining their observations, and test them. Attorneys begin with a conclusion they want to convince others of and then seek evidence that supports it, while also attempting to discredit evidence that doesn’t. The human mind is designed to be both a scientist and an attorney, both a conscious seeker of objective truth and an unconscious, impassioned advocate for what we want to believe. Together these approaches vie to create our worldview.

After reading all the studies, examples, revelations, etc, it was really nice to see the author end on a note promoting a positive self image. Which, ties in with the self-help journey I’ve been on.

Mlodinow says, “In fact, studies show that the people with the most accurate self-perceptions tend to be moderately depressed, suffer from low self-esteem, or both. An overly positive self-evaluation, on the other hand is normal and healthy.”

Imagine that, fifty thousand years ago, anyone in their right mind looking toward the harsh winters of northern Europe would have crawled into a cave and given up. Women seeing their children die from rampant infections, men watching their women die in childbirth, human tribes suffering from drought, flood, and famine must have found it difficult to keep courageously marching forward. But with so many seemingly insurmountable barriers in life, nature provided us with the means to create an unrealistically rosy attitude about overcoming them–which helps us do precisely that.

And on that, remember, you rock.

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Mama’s got a bag of her own..

It’s been a while. Yes indeed! And for good reason too!

Before catching you up with some tropical truth, a little bit of background on this song. Anna King was a back up singer for James Brown. After a while, she decided to come out with her own album, and with some help of James Brown, “Back to Soul” was born. This track Mama’s got a bag of her own is something we can all relate with.

Having things decided for you can be nice, but independence is better. In my own personal case, independence is A LOT better ūüôā



A while back I decided to change my life around.

From the age of 7-23 ish, I was severely depressed. Depression seemed programmed in my soul. It seemed as inescapable as the need to breathe. It seemed to be the only way….

Between suicide attempts and self mutilation, my interactions with every day life were forced and fake. I tried so hard to not let my pain show.

Something I’ve learned in recent years is how important motives are. You could have the same out come on paper, but if the motives are off, so are the internalized results.

Example, You give a homeless person $20 bucks.

Motivation #1) You “see” their pain, you “feel” their pain, and you don’t want them to be rejected by yet another person at the light. So you give them a 20. Afterwards, you are left with that sad feeling, still thinking life isn’t fair, and maybe that you should’ve kept that 20…

Motivation #2) You are feeling good, you’re feeling generous, you know that there is some freedom behind not having a 9-5 or a mortgage, and you give them $20 because you think, hey, I bet they could enjoy some food, alcohol, or whatever.

This different process of thinking, is all self-made. Humans are capable of SO MUCH!! Just scan the internet, pay attention the next time you’re out and about, etc. I.E., there’s a guy without arms that drives to work, where he engineers cars. There’s people who pull out of destructive situations and totally rock it. Rags to riches style.

If you don’t know anyone who’s improved their own lives, then maybe you should meet new people. Seriously, they’re out there. Plus it’s great to surround yourself with positive happy people. Energies are contagious. True story. All those negative thoughts keeping you back, well they’re just echos of other people’s thoughts. You can go back and pin point them all, or you could just start from scratch and replace them with more happy productive thoughts. Either way, depression is draining, and ain’t nobody got time for that ūüėČ

So, you may be wondering, what’s all this getting to…

Well, last March (2013) I quit my call center job, to pursue self-employment and autonomy. I was learning about real estate investing and saw a way to make it happen.

On the journey to close a real estate deal, I discovered this need for traveling notaries. As it turns out, people need notaries to come to them, and will pay a decent price. So, I started my DBA, Austin Mobile Notary Public

It’s worked out great, I get to set my own hours, sleep in some, take trips, and spend quality time with my lover ūüôā

Bonnaroo!!

While all this was happening, I decided to put up a craigslist ad offering to teach anyone what I’ve learned about real estate investing. Then something awesome happened. One of the people who responded, used the techniques I shared and we went 50/50 on a transaction, and we each walked away with $5,000 in less than 30 days. It was so smooth, and a win-win for everyone involved!

I may not have stuck to my literal self help challenge, but I have tried to keep myself as on track as possible. It’s all about doing your best. And remember, as Miguel Ruiz points out in his book The Four Agreements, our best changes from day to day.

I wish everyone the peace and comfort of knowing how much power they have in their own lives.

Until another time.
Love life, and look for the tropical truth ūüėČ

Numbers

Positivity has been an on going ¬†journey in my life, that began over two years ago. ¬†An important catalyst was¬†reoccurring¬†numbers, specifically “888” which then developed to “38”.

One summer day, a friend lent me a book while we were at the pool.  I used to be a big time reader in my youth, but college had killed that joy.  Having graduated and not given reading much thought, this lent book was an example of Perfect Timing.
It ¬†was called “The Secret of Letting Go by Guy Finley. ¬†I highly recommend it to any pessimists out there masquerading¬†as “Realists”.

Here’s a little bit from the book, and then after that, back to the numbers thing.

1
SELF-DOUBT is born out of being identified with the idea that how you feel about yourself depends upon how others feel about you. Give up self-doubt. It only makes you more dependent on others who can’t do anything about their own self-doubt. INDEPENDENCE IS CONFIDENCE.

2
SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS is born out of being identified with the idea that just b/c you can point out something that is wrong, places you above that wrongness. Give up the self-righteousness. It only feels like something right. It is coming from something that is Wrong. Right isn’t something you feel. It IS something you are.

3
SELF-PITY and past regrets are born out of being identified with the idea that you could have done differently than you did. If you could have, you would have. Give up the regret!! It only ties you to the old life-level that you didn’t know better and keeps you from the one that does!

4
ANGER is born out of being identified with the fear you feel when others won’t conform to your point of view. Give up your anger towards others and yourself by seeing that the force of fear is not strength. Remember that for any and every action of force there is an equal and opposite one. This explains why the fighting never ends. LET IT END.

5
SELF-TORMENT is born out of being identified with the idea that the more you suffer the more real, the more important, you must be. Give up all self-torment. It drives you–but it doesn’t take you anywhere. Who you really are never suffers over who it isn’t.

–the secret of letting go¬†

After reading this book, I’d be out and about and when a positive thought came to mind or positive action, I would then have my attention drawn to something with the numbers “888”. ¬†Be it, a license plate, part of a phone number (and no not those 1-888-#s), or an account number, you name it.

The more I “policed” my thoughts and made them positive ones, the more I saw the three 8s…

This later morphed into seeing 38 everywhere.. and my theory behind why these numbers, I will go into in another blog.

BUT!!

These numbers stopped showing up in my life. I met the woman of my dreams, she moved in, we made plans, we enjoyed good times.. and then the numbers slowly went away….

Over a year later, we are still together, except now we’re living in Austin, TX which we had made serious plans on doing, and I’m still madly in love with her, and vice versa.

Finding a job has been a struggle. This is the longest I’ve gone w/o employment, but I’ve maintained high hopes and thinking “Hopefully I’ll get this, or something better!”

THEN IT HIT ME!!!!

A business Idea.

Without going much into it, much planning has begun.

BAM

 

38 is back. and in full force. It went from maybe seeing it once every other week or so, to literally in the past few weeks I’ve seen it 4-15 times a day!!!!

Each time in¬†reference¬†to this business idea, that I’m sure I can make ¬†Positive for all people involved.

Now, this may sound crazy. But, I’m a firm believer in the Law of attraction and all it has done for me, along with positivity. Since i’m a nerd for math, numbers speak to me. ¬†I believe that other people may get “signs” in other ways, that¬†resonate¬†better to them. Be it, songs that pop up, types of people, a phrase, scent, you name it. We all have life as a cheerleader, helping us in the right direction, giving us the green light.—- we just need to be aware enough to notice it.

Break out of habits. break out of routines  that only serve in deading your thirst for life. JUST. LET. GO.

 

signing out-

and loving life!