Mama’s got a bag of her own..

It’s been a while. Yes indeed! And for good reason too!

Before catching you up with some tropical truth, a little bit of background on this song. Anna King was a back up singer for James Brown. After a while, she decided to come out with her own album, and with some help of James Brown, “Back to Soul” was born. This track Mama’s got a bag of her own is something we can all relate with.

Having things decided for you can be nice, but independence is better. In my own personal case, independence is A LOT better ūüôā



A while back I decided to change my life around.

From the age of 7-23 ish, I was severely depressed. Depression seemed programmed in my soul. It seemed as inescapable as the need to breathe. It seemed to be the only way….

Between suicide attempts and self mutilation, my interactions with every day life were forced and fake. I tried so hard to not let my pain show.

Something I’ve learned in recent years is how important motives are. You could have the same out come on paper, but if the motives are off, so are the internalized results.

Example, You give a homeless person $20 bucks.

Motivation #1) You “see” their pain, you “feel” their pain, and you don’t want them to be rejected by yet another person at the light. So you give them a 20. Afterwards, you are left with that sad feeling, still thinking life isn’t fair, and maybe that you should’ve kept that 20…

Motivation #2) You are feeling good, you’re feeling generous, you know that there is some freedom behind not having a 9-5 or a mortgage, and you give them $20 because you think, hey, I bet they could enjoy some food, alcohol, or whatever.

This different process of thinking, is all self-made. Humans are capable of SO MUCH!! Just scan the internet, pay attention the next time you’re out and about, etc. I.E., there’s a guy without arms that drives to work, where he engineers cars. There’s people who pull out of destructive situations and totally rock it. Rags to riches style.

If you don’t know anyone who’s improved their own lives, then maybe you should meet new people. Seriously, they’re out there. Plus it’s great to surround yourself with positive happy people. Energies are contagious. True story. All those negative thoughts keeping you back, well they’re just echos of other people’s thoughts. You can go back and pin point them all, or you could just start from scratch and replace them with more happy productive thoughts. Either way, depression is draining, and ain’t nobody got time for that ūüėČ

So, you may be wondering, what’s all this getting to…

Well, last March (2013) I quit my call center job, to pursue self-employment and autonomy. I was learning about real estate investing and saw a way to make it happen.

On the journey to close a real estate deal, I discovered this need for traveling notaries. As it turns out, people need notaries to come to them, and will pay a decent price. So, I started my DBA, Austin Mobile Notary Public

It’s worked out great, I get to set my own hours, sleep in some, take trips, and spend quality time with my lover ūüôā

Bonnaroo!!

While all this was happening, I decided to put up a craigslist ad offering to teach anyone what I’ve learned about real estate investing. Then something awesome happened. One of the people who responded, used the techniques I shared and we went 50/50 on a transaction, and we each walked away with $5,000 in less than 30 days. It was so smooth, and a win-win for everyone involved!

I may not have stuck to my literal self help challenge, but I have tried to keep myself as on track as possible. It’s all about doing your best. And remember, as Miguel Ruiz points out in his book The Four Agreements, our best changes from day to day.

I wish everyone the peace and comfort of knowing how much power they have in their own lives.

Until another time.
Love life, and look for the tropical truth ūüėČ

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Power of the Master Mind

Moving forward in this Self Help Challenge, this chapter is the 9th step to accumulating riches.

Rather than go into too much detail, I made a mini video. ūüôā

Quote of the week from Napoleon Hill’s¬†Think & Grow Rich

Poverty may, and generally does, voluntarily take the place of riches. ¬†When riches take the place of poverty, the change is usually brought about through well-conceived and carefully executed PLANS. ¬†Poverty needs no plan. ¬†It needs no one to aid it, because it is bold and ruthless. Riches are shy and timid. ¬†They have to be “attracted.”

Organized Planning

In Napoleon Hill’s¬†Think & Grow Rich, the 6th step towards riches is the crystallization of desire into action by means of organized planning. Since I eventually hope to make this blog into a book someday, organization is definitely a must. ¬†This blog helps me track my experiment of literally living out self help techniques.

One of my favorite things about¬†Think & Grow Rich, is the way the book is structured. ¬†Originally I had hesitation to start this self help challenge with this book. ¬†But honestly, I’m glad I did. ¬†A lot of the time working a “9 to 5” can come in the way for “literally” living the advice and practices found in a self help book. ¬†Hopefully by the¬†completion¬†of this book, I’ll be a better person and will be able to support myself financially without the “9 to 5” gig.

So back to the structure. ¬†It’s done with a step by step outlined path towards betterment. ¬†Like a rag to riches manual.

This chapter’s plan of action, calls for the formation of a “Master Mind” group. ¬†A group that will help you plan and¬†organize¬†for success. This group that should also be¬†knowledgeable¬†in your field. ¬†It is something Hill requires is done, and that you meet with your group weekly.

Every person is the architect of his or her own fortune.

Every person is the architect of his or her own fortune.

Time to get creative and¬†figure¬†out how¬†I can make this step happen…..

Organized planning seems to be a HUGE focus.  The chapter alone is twice as long as any of the other chapters.

Next major take away from this chapter is the importance of being a leader.

  1. Unwavering¬†courage based upon knowledge of self, and of one’s occupation. No follower wishes to be dominated by a leader very long.
  2. Self-Control. ¬†The man who cannot control himself, can never control others. ¬†Self-control sets a mighty example for one’s followers, which the more intelligent will emulate.
  3. A keen sense of justice.  Without a sense of fairness and justice, no leader can command and retain the respect of his followers.
  4. Definiteness of decision.  The man who wavers in his decisions shows that he is not sure of himself. He cannot lead others successfully.
  5. Definiteness of plans   The successful leader must plan his work, and work his plan.  A leader who moves by guess work, without practical, definite plans, is comparable to a whip without a rudder.  One of the penalties of leadership is the necessity of willingness, upon the part of the leader, t o do more than he requires of his followers.
  6. The habit of doing more than paid for. One of the penalties of leadership is the necessity of willingness, upon the part of the leader, to do more than he requires of his followers.
  7. A pleasing personality. NO slovenly, careless  person can become a successful leader.  Leadership calls for respect.  Followers will not respect a leader who does not grade high on all of the factors of a pleasing personality.
  8. Sympathy and understanding.  The successful leader must be in sympathy with his followers.  Moreover, he must understand them and their problems.
  9. Master of detail. ¬†Successful leadership calls for mastery of details of the leader’s¬†position.
  10. Willingness to assume full responsibility. The successful leader must be willing to assume responsibility for the mistakes and the short comings of his followers.  If he tries to shift this responsibility, he will not remain the leader.  If one of his followers mistakes a mistake and shows himself incompetent, the leader must consider that it is he who failed.
  11. Cooperation.  The successful leader must understand and apply the principle of cooperation effort and be able to induce his followers to do the same.  Leadership calls for power, and power calls for cooperation. *Napoleon Hill, Think & Grow Rich

Napoleon Hill goes into further depth about where to apply for jobs, and how to apply so that ¬†you don’t just get a job, but you start off “in the middle of the ladder.”

Since, I’m not exactly looking for a corporate job, I won’t be going over these details.

The next point in the chapter, 30 Major Causes for Failure

Personally, I’m a huge fan of Law of attraction, meaning focus on what you want, rather than what you don’t want-and see what happens ūüėČ

However, it is good to know what you shouldn’t want if you are in doubt about what you want.

Here’s the list ūüėÄ

How many of these are holding you back?

  1. Unfavorable hereditary background. ¬†There is but little, if anything, which can be done for people who are born with a deficiency in brain power. ¬†This philosophy offers but one method of bridging this weakness–through the aid of the Master Mind. ¬†Observe with profit, however, that this is the only one of the thirty causes of failure which may not be¬†easily corrected by any individual.
  2. Lack of a well-defined purpose in life.  There is no hope of success for the person who does not have a central purpose, or definite goal at which to aim.  98 or out every 100 of those whom I have analyzed had no such aim.  Perhaps this was the major cause of their failure.
  3. Lack of ambition to aim above mediocrity.  We offer no hope for the person who is so indifferent as not to want to get ahead in life, and who is not willing to pay the price.
  4. Insufficient education. ¬†This is a handicap which may be overcome with comparative ease. ¬†Experience has proven that the best-educated people are often those who are known as “self-made” or self-educated. ¬†It takes more that a college degree to make one a person of education. ¬†Any person who is educated is one who has learned to get whatever he wants in life without violating the rights of others. Education consists not so much of knowledge, but of knowledge effectively and persistently applied. ¬†Men are paid not merely for what they know, but more particularly for what they do with which they know.
  5. Lack of self-discipline. Discipline comes through self-control.  This means that one must control all negative qualities.  Before you can control conditions, you must first control yourself.  Self-mastery is the hardest job you will ever tackle.  If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.  You may see at one and the same time both your best friend and your greatest enemy, by stepping in front of a mirror.
  6. Ill health.  NO person may enjoy outstanding success without good health.  Many of the causes of ill health are subject to mastery and control.  These, in the main, are: Overeating of foods not conducive to health, Wrong habits of thought, giving expression to negatives, Wrong use of, and overindulgence in sex, Lack of proper physical exercise, An inadequate supply of fresh air, due to improper breathing.
  7. Unfavorable environmental influences during childhood. ¬†“As the twig is bent, so shall the tree grow.” ¬†Most people who have criminal tendencies acquire them as the result of bad environment and improper associates during childhood.
  8. Procrastination. ¬†This is one of the most common causes of failure. ¬†“Old Man¬†Procrastination” stands within the shadow of every human being, waiting his opportunity to spoil one’s chances of success. Most of us go through life as failures because we are waiting for the “time to be right” to start doing something worthwhile. ¬†Do not wait. ¬†The time will never be “just right.” ¬†Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.
  9. Lack of persistence. ¬†Most of us are good “starters” but poor “finishers” of everything we begin. ¬†Moreover, people are prone to give up at the first signs of defeat. ¬†There is no substitute for persistence. ¬†The person who makes persistence his watchword discovers that “Old Man Failure” finally becomes tired, and makes his departure. ¬†Failure cannot cope with persistence.
  10. Negative personality.  There is no hope of success of the person who repels people through a negative personality.  Success comes through the application of power, and power is attained through the cooperative efforts of other people.  A negative personality will not induce cooperation.
  11. Lack of controlled sexual urge.  Sex energy is the most powerful of all the stimuli which move people into action.  Because it is the most powerful of the emotions, it must be controlled through transmutation, and converted into other channels.
  12. Uncontrolled desire for “something for nothing.” ¬†The gambling instinct drives millions of people to failure. ¬†Evidence of this may be found in a study of the Wall Street crash of ’29, during which millions of people tried to make money by gambling on stock margins.
  13. Lack of a well defined power of decision. Men who succeed reach decisions¬†promptly¬† and change them, if at all very slowly. ¬†Men who fail, reach decisions, if at all, very slowly, and change them frequently and quickly. ¬†Indecision and procrastination are twin brothers. ¬†Where one is found the other may¬†usually¬†be found also. ¬†Kill off this pair before they¬†completely¬†“hog-tie” you to the treadmill of failure.
  14. One or more of the six basic fears.  These fears have been analysed for you in a later chapter.  They must be mastered before you can market your services effectively.
  15. Wrong selection of a mate in marriage.  This a most common cause of failure.  The relationship of marriage brings people intimately into contact.  Unless this relationship is harmonious, failure is likely to follow.  Moreover, it will be a form of failure that is marked by misery and unhappiness, destroying all signs of ambition.
  16. Overcaution.  The person who takes no chances, generally has to take whatever is left when others are through choosing.  Overcaution is as bad as under-caution.  Both are extremes to be guarded against.  Life itself is filled white the element of chance.
  17. Wrong selection of associates in business. This is one of the most common causes of failure in business.  In marketing personal services, one should use great care to select an employer who will be an inspiration, and who is, himself, intelligent and successful.  We emulate those with whom we associate most closely.  Pick an employer who is worth emulating.
  18. Superstition and prejudice.  Superstition is a form of fear.  It is also a sign of ignorance.  Men who succeed keep open minds and are afraid of nothing.
  19. Wrong selection of a vocation.  No man can succeed in a line of endeavor which he does not like.  The most essential step in the marketing of personal services is that of selecting an occupation into which you can throw yourself wholeheartedly.
  20. Lack of concentration of effort. ¬†The “jack-of-all-trades” seldom is good at any. ¬†Concentrate all of your efforts on the definite chief aim.
  21. The habit of indiscriminate spending.  The spendthrift cannot succeed, mainly because he stands eternally in fear of poverty.  From the habit of systematic saving by putting aside a definite percentage of your income.  Money in the bank gives one a very safe foundation of courage when bargaining for the sale of personal services.  Without money, one must take what one is offered, and be glad to get it.
  22. Lack of enthusiasm.  Without enthusiasm one cannot be convincing.  Moreover, enthusiasm is contagious, and the person who has it, under control, is generally welcome in any group of people.
  23. Intolerance. The person with a “closed” mind on any subject seldom gets ahead. ¬†Intolerance means that one has stopped¬†acquiring¬†knowledge. ¬†The most damaging forms of intolerance are those connected with religious, racial, and political difference of opinion.
  24. Intemperance.  The most damaging forms of intemperance are connected with eating, strong drink, and sexual activities.  Overindulgence in any of these is fatal to success.
  25. Inability to cooperate with others.  more people lose their positions and their big opportunities in life because of this fault than for all other reasons combined. It is a fault which no well-informed businessman or leader will tolerate.
  26. Possession of power that was not acquired through self-effort.  (Sons and daughters of wealthy men, and others who inherit money which they did not earn.) Power in the hands of one who did not acquire it gradually is often fatal in success.  Quick riches are more dangerous than poverty.
  27. Intentional dishonesty.  There is no substitute for honesty.  One may be temporarily dishonest by force of circumstances over which one has no control, without permanent damage.  But, there is no hope for the person who is dishonest by choice.  Sooner or later, his deeds will catch up with him, and he will pay by loss of reputation, and perhaps even loss of liberty.
  28. Egotism and vanity.  These qualities serve as red lights which warn others to keep away. They are fatal to success.
  29. Guessing instead of thinking. ¬†Most people are too indifferent or lazy to acquire facts with which to think accurately. ¬†They prefer to act on “opinions” created by guesswork or snap¬†judgement.
  30. Lack of capital.  This is a common cause of failure among those who start out in business for the first time without sufficient reserve of capital to absorb the shock of their mistakes, and to carry them over until they have established a reputation.

PHEW!!!

And there you have it. The ultimate on how to be the most legit person EVER.

I know I’m personally guilty of several of these… A goal of doing this blog/experiment, is to apply these techniques as literally as I can, and see what happens in the long run…

Here’s to a year of being too legit to quit ūüėČ

-TT

Imagination

I’m still keeping up with the check list of self help success provided by Napoleon Hill in¬†Think & Grow Rich. ¬†It’s a great feeling to hold yourself accountable. ¬†Will power is just like anything else we do in our lives. We need to practice it, foster its growth, and take time to reflect upon it.

In chapter 6 of Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill is about IMAGINATION.

Imagination

Imagination

He calls imagination, “the workshop of the mind.” ¬†That, “Man’s only limitation,within reason, lies in his¬†development¬†and use of his imagination.”

Napoleon Hill divides imagination into two categories: Synthetic Imagination, and Creative Imagination.  The first is where you create something from existing ideas.  The latter, is more about intuition and out of nowhere inspiration.

What’s really fun about this chapter, is reading about Hill’s thoughts about¬†inter-connectivity, energy, and the universe. ¬†For a book written in 1937, these are some pretty “new age” thoughts.

The takeaway from this chapter is to stay open, imagine in your mind your future situation, and listen to the ques on how to make that happen.

Until next chapter

-TT

Autosuggestion

The Medium for influencing the subconscious mind.

According to Napoleon Hill’s¬†Think & Grow Rich, this is the third step toward riches.

Autosuggestion is another way of saying self-suggestion. ¬†In this chapter Hill ¬†gives several examples as to why we need to disconnect our black and white view of how things are and come to terms with our subconscious. ¬†He creates the analogy: “the¬†subconscious¬†mind resembling a fertile ¬†garden spot, in which weeds will grow in abundance if the seeds of more desirable crops are not sown therein. ¬†Autosuggestion is the agency of control through which an individual may voluntarily feed his¬†subconscious¬†mind on thoughts of a creative nature, or, by neglect, permit thoughts of a destructive nature to find their way into this rich garden of the mind.”

So the purpose of the twice a day say-out-loud-what-you-want-in-life exercise is to suggest to your subconscious to start creating new habits in your life that will fulfill these goals.

Here’s a visual I’ve come up with to help cement this idea of autosuggestion…..

autosuggestion photobomb

You may be wondering what this has to do with autosuggestion? Well, I have a skill for “reaching” and here it is. haha. Imagine you’re the horse, focused on getting to a greener patch of grass and not paying much attention to your surroundings. Then-bam- you’re stuck in a fence. ¬†Your subconscious pops in and is like- HA!- I kept mooing at you to moooove in a different direction. But as a focused horse ¬†you ignored your subconscious and got yourself in a jam.

So here you have it. This is an example of a poorly planted subconscious garden. ¬†Plant the right seeds to move in the right direction and avoid having your subconscious pop up and laugh at you… well at least in a bad way.

Back to the chapter…

Summary of Instructions

FIRST. Go into some quiet spot where you will not be disturbed or interrupted, close your eyes, and repeat aloud the written statement of the amount of money you intend to accumulate, the time limit for its accumulation, and a description of the service or merchandise you intend to give in return for the money,.  As your carry out these instructions, see yourself already in possession of the money.

SECOND. Repeat this program night and morning until you can see in your imagination the money you intend to accumulate.

THIRD. Place a written copy of your statement where you can see it night and morning, and read it just before retiring and upon arising until it has been mesmerizer  Remember, as you carry out these instructions, that you are applying the principle of autosuggestion, for the purpose of giving orders to your subconscious mind.

And on this note…

Good night and Love Life.